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Post by Onomatopoeia on Feb 25, 2014 6:32:35 GMT
Let's share ideas for being good to ourselves as it is imperative we are in good health, rested, balanced to better support our patient.
DW said she has morning time alone. So far I've only caught up on sleep when I can. I need to find time for some joy. Mostly, though, I need help with being able to handle the constant repeating I must do since his short time memory I'd gone most often. Does anyone have any secrets or hints for being patient when he forgets?
I may need xanax.
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Post by Deceived Wife on Feb 25, 2014 6:42:17 GMT
Michelle,
I got on meds..... It was trial and error until we found a good combination, but I'm now on Prozac 40mg daily and klonopin as needed up to 3x per day. I'm no longer on ambien since moving to the sofa and making the decision to end the marriage.
I've also resumed going to the nail salon for my usual mani & pedi. I used to go weekly, I hadn't gone since June when all hell broke loose. I'm also spending time with a good girlfriend.... and we have sleep overs at her house.... lol. We get in our jammies and watch chick flicks. We do this about twice a week.
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Post by Onomatopoeia on Feb 25, 2014 6:53:33 GMT
Oh, wow. The chic flicks sound like great therapy.  If I get on some anti anxiety I bet I could roll with his moods and intense needs easier. I hope I can swing girls night. I bet walking the dogs would feel good, too. |
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Post by Deceived Wife on Feb 25, 2014 7:21:22 GMT
The Anti-Anxiety meds helped a lot; it allows me to let things "roll" off a lot easier. The day he was so upset about the dog not talking to him, without meds, I would have been out of my mind with worry..... the meds allow me to respond " you're right...she should explain her self and apologize".
As far as finally making girl time for me again, I didn't for a long time b/c I was afraid to leave him without a good enough reason....but now, I get that I need respid too. And frankly, he doesn't interact with anyone in the house anyway. So why am I here??? Other than to check in once every few hours. I can do that by text. He goes out with his friends sometimes and has some guy time.
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Post by Deceived Wife on Feb 25, 2014 7:22:57 GMT
ps... my kids laugh when I say I'm going to Anita's for a sleep over. But they are glad to see me getting out and taking care of myself again.
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Post by maybee on Feb 27, 2014 2:07:01 GMT
Hello I've been getting headaches. I've never had them before. That makes me sad but mostly I'm afraid to take a sleeping pill. I'm not getting sleep.
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Post by Deceived Wife on Apr 21, 2014 10:21:31 GMT
I've joined planet fitness and find that going to the gym is helping to relive a bit of the stress. I'm also toning up and tanning. It feels good to take care of myself a little bit. My membership allows me to take a friend; husband went with me once....but most often it is my Daughter who wants to go - so it gives us Mother/Daughter time.
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